Is anybody ever confident 100% of the time? Well, I’m confident in myself enough to admit that I am not. Confidence is something I think everybody, male and female struggle with from time to time. And when we get too high up, it seems that karma will throw us a curve ball to humble us, to brings us back down. But what about when we get low? And I don’t just mean low, I mean low to a point where there is absolutely nothing anybody can say or do to cheer us up and get us going in the right direction. My mission is to be confident, even when I’m not.
“Be confident. Even when your not.” – Floetic Soul
So lets get straight to the point. To be confident when your not, you have to do one thing and one thing only: Fake it until you make it. At least, that is my theory. That is my personal strategy. Confidence is courage. But courage is not always present. It’s not something you can just conjure up. It’s a process.. a mental one at that, which makes it even more complicated. Sometimes we let our pasts effect our futures, because our thoughts are not what they should be. For example, when I’m in a new, challenging situation, I often lose my confidence in my abilities, because I begin comparing my skills and talents to other peoples abilities. Instead of focusing on what I’ve got going on, I’m focusing on what I lack. That’s where the default lies. You can’t achieve success that way. You have to be confident, even when you aren’t. You have to think positive when things are negative. You have to keep trying, you have to keep going, even when you don’t feel like it.
To be confident when your not, you have to take control of your thoughts. You have to be extra cautious about what you think about yourself. Too many times, I have thought negative things about myself, to where I began to believe those things about myself. When, at the time, I knew deep down it wasn’t true, but I felt that there must be some truth to that lie, because that’s what other people seemed to think of me. The opinions that other people have about you should never define you. Yes, we live in a world where what other people think about us and our work often determines our futures and etc. , but that doesn’t mean it has to define what we believe as the truth about our own selves. Otherwise, if what other people believe about us, even if it’s false accusations, dictates our futures, then we are headed down a road of failure.
“Walk into a room like you own it. Every damn time.” – Unknown
For as long as I can remember, I have always been defined as the shy girl who never talks. In the past I was incredibly introverted. Today, my past still haunts me. Although, I am not the same person I once was, people still see me and treat me as if I never changed. Shyness is still a label they put on me, but I don’t let that effect my mentality. I don’t let that effect what I can and cannot do. I don’t tell myself, “Oh, I can’t sing and perform in front of crowds, because they all think I’m shy..” I can’t do that. I have to prove them wrong, even if I have to do it a million times. I have to be confident in who I know I am and what I know I can do. And even when a little bit of doubt creeps in, I have to think positive anyway. I have to go forward anyways.
“Courage is a mean with regard to fear and confidence.” – Aristotle
So whatever you do, just remember that confidence is a VERY attractive quality, for both male and female. Keep your head up, no matter what comes against you. You’ve heard this a million times before, but I bet you haven’t heard this today.. Never give up. You can do it . I believe in you. Just go for it. The best is yet to come.